So it's been an interesting weekend.
Without going into names because this is publick, I will share what I got. First, I seem to have got fat, seven pounds even with the six-seven miles that I walked. I suppose alcohol is highly caloric, and I always find that I seem to hold on to weight when I eat bread, and I ate quite a bit of that, and quite a bit of candy and junk food as well.
But that's beside the point. This is the point: surround yourself with the right kind of people. I was invited by my friend P to a meal and to the post meal gathering of a mutual friend, R. Also at the meal were T and Z (all names changed because why not). Among these were a basement dwelling brother and a particular tenns “pro.”
The thing I noted is that none of them seemed to be going anywhere. At least P has kids so he has a future orientation that builds toward something. The basement dweller has a dog, which may or may not be substituting for more intimate human connection.
The tennis pro looked at the yard of R and said he'd put in a tennis court so he could give private lessons at home.
Not that there is anything wrong with where any of these people are (for them; for me, or you, I'd think it's a waste of a way when you can do so much more).
And I thought of Jim Rohn's suggestion that you are the average of the people you spend the most time with, and I was clear I did not want to be the average of this collection.
And then I spent lunch the next day with a friend, let's call him K, and I inquired as to what inspires him, and the answer was nothing. And yet he always seems to have something in the works, and he seems to know everyone, but he's not closing, and I thought to myself, "if I were him, I'd want to put myself in a room with closers, because that's what he needs to be doing."
So my point is you should want to be something, whatever your present conception of your best use might be. And then you should make sure that you are constantly in a room of people up to the same thing, or at least often enough that you inspire each other to be that thing which you seek to be.
Happy week, hope you find the right people soon.
Hope you are the right people and if not that you become them.
I too hope to become the right people for others.
But I really want to be one to inspire others to greatness with extreme confidence and an unwillingness to conform to their bullshit.
But I always wanted to be special. I need just to embrace it. (And accept that it doesn’t always have to be about me. It has to be about them. But they shouldn’t have to compromise on what they want. but I digress.)
All the love to you and the family, from all the family here. (well, possibly, not U and Y they weren’t here for me to ask. But I’m assuming they’re with me on the love sending so I would love it if you received it preemptively.)